Hated Are The Lukewarm

Popular performers both reflect and shape social attitudes.

The white rapper Eminem won a Grammy Award while I was writing this book. At the time of his award, one of his newest popular songs was “Kim,” the name of Eminem’s wife. The song begins with the singer putting his baby daughter to bed and then preparing to murder his wife for being with another man. He tells his wife, “If you move I’ll beat the shit out of you,” and informs her that he has already murdered their four-year-old son. He then tells his wife he is going to drive away with her in the car, leaving the baby at home alone, and then will bring her home dead in the trunk. Kim’s voice (as performed by Eminem) is audible off and on throughout the song, screaming with terror. At times she pleads with him not to hurt her. He describes to her how he is going to make it look as if she is the one who killed their son and that he killed her in self-defense, so that he’ll get away with it. Kim screams for help, then is audibly choked to death, as Eminem screams, “Bleed, bitch, bleed! Bleed!” The murder is followed by the sound of a body being dragged across dry leaves, thrown into the trunk of a car, and closed in.

Even more horrible than Eminem’s decision to record this song glorifying the murder of a woman and child is the fact that it did not stop him from receiving a Grammy. What is a teen boy or a young man to conclude about our culture from this award? I believe I can safely say that a singer who openly promoted the killing of Jews, or blacks, or people in wheelchairs would be considered ineligible for a Grammy. But not so, unfortunately, for encouraging the brutal and premeditated murder of one’s wife and child, complete with a plan for how to escape consequences for it.

And, unfortunately, Eminem has plenty of company. The extremely popular Guns ’n’ Roses recorded a song that goes: “I used to love her / But I had to kill her / I had to put her six feet under / And I can still hear her complain.” The singer (Axl Rose) goes on to sing that he knew he would miss her so he buried her in the backyard. This song supports a common attitude among physical abusers that women’s complaints are what provoke men to violence. Another outstanding example is the comedian Andrew Dice Clay, whose repertoire of “jokes” about the beating and sexual assault of females has filled performance halls across the country. Fans of these kinds of performers have been known to state defensively, “Come on, it’s just humor.” But humor is actually one of the powerful ways a culture passes on its values. If a man is already inclined toward abuse because of his earlier training or experience, he can find validation in such erformances and distance himself even further from empathy for his partners. In one abuse case that I was involved in, the man used to play the above Guns ’n’ Roses song on the stereo repeatedly and tell his wife that this was what was going to happen to her, laughing about it. But in the context of verbal assault and physical fear that he created, what was a joke to him was a blood-curdling threat to his partner.

—Why does he do that - Lundy Bancroft (via scherbensalat)

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solitarelee:

ebon-yoyo:

msitfits:

Natural hair color ideas and inspiration!

So prettyyy

*points at the first one* See, THAT’S the color I want! I’m printing this out to bring to the salon. >3> (Although I really would love to know how the 5th lady got her hair those colors *-*)

avoxia:

the worst thing about tumblr is that you read all those pro feminist/anti rape/anti misogyny posts all the time everyday and then you actually go outside and talk to a random guy and it feels like being punched in the face with a chair

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thagoodthings:

thisiswhiteprivilege:

softboycollective:

TUESDAY 8/19: Ferguson PD presented a table full of fabricated evidence at this morning’s press conference - allegedly seized from protestors and stopped cars. The Colt 45 Molotov with a white bandana was the crowning glory, turns out you can’t even buy glass 40’s in Missouri. Stay classy, FPD

I seriously think white supremacist are coming in the area to frame the protesters, but it could just be the cops

They so messy!!!

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yasgawd:

i don’t care how a child is dressed or how mature their body is, they are a CHILD and they don’t need to be sexualized. thanks

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soulrevision:

Look at the difference in headlines. And then look at the way in which the AP depicted Renisha McBride.
Even in death, we lose all humanity. Victim shaming knows no bounds.
She is a black woman, she has a name. Don’t ever forget it!
#RenishaMcBride
*thanks to @goldietaylor for the pic*

soulrevision:

Look at the difference in headlines. And then look at the way in which the AP depicted Renisha McBride.

Even in death, we lose all humanity. Victim shaming knows no bounds.

She is a black woman, she has a name. Don’t ever forget it!

#RenishaMcBride

*thanks to @goldietaylor for the pic*

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dangerouscommiesubversive:

mrssnicket:

dangerouscommiesubversive:

Took a couple of days off knitting to give my hands a break and then dove right back in. The headband is now about sixteen inches long, and I just had a bad scare (almost lost several stitches in a color-switching mishap), so I’m sort of saving my progress.

That is awesome. How did you manage the colored cable between black in a different color?! I tried that once and failed miserably.

Hey there, mrssnicket! (Sorry it took me a couple of days to respond to this, I can’t insert images while mobileblogging). Thanks so much, I’m glad you think it’s cool! ^_^
First off, if you take a look at the start of the headband there, I made things easier on myself by starting off with solid black and then adding in the second color. (The stitches are on a holder because I did a provisional cast-on, which I used to graft the ends together once I’d finished the piece.) Doing the contrasting cable isn’t super-complicated, it just often sounds like it.
When I’d gotten to where I wanted the cable to start, I added in the red yarn, and then joined a second ball of black on the other side of the stripe so I wasn’t carrying my working yarn across the back of the piece (which would deform it and also not be very comfortable on my head).
The key is to twist the working strands together each time you change colors, like you’re doing Fair Isle colorwork. Which doesn’t even mean doing a lot of twisting—all you really have to do is bring your new working yarn up under the strand of the previous color when you’re switching over, so it traps the previous working strand against the back of the piece. So you get a sort of seam that looks like this:

And then on the front side of the piece, if you pull it apart a bit, that seam looks like this:

It can get a little warped right around where you cable, but that works itself out after another couple of rows, and if it really worries you, just make the stripe wider than just the cable.
I hope this helps you! ^_^

I didn’t expect suxh a long reply bit I’m very happy you did. Very helpful indeed. I’ll definitely try this again in the future. That is a beautiful headband. Thank you :)

dangerouscommiesubversive:

mrssnicket:

dangerouscommiesubversive:

Took a couple of days off knitting to give my hands a break and then dove right back in. The headband is now about sixteen inches long, and I just had a bad scare (almost lost several stitches in a color-switching mishap), so I’m sort of saving my progress.

That is awesome. How did you manage the colored cable between black in a different color?!
I tried that once and failed miserably.

Hey there, mrssnicket! (Sorry it took me a couple of days to respond to this, I can’t insert images while mobileblogging). Thanks so much, I’m glad you think it’s cool! ^_^

First off, if you take a look at the start of the headband there, I made things easier on myself by starting off with solid black and then adding in the second color. (The stitches are on a holder because I did a provisional cast-on, which I used to graft the ends together once I’d finished the piece.) Doing the contrasting cable isn’t super-complicated, it just often sounds like it.

When I’d gotten to where I wanted the cable to start, I added in the red yarn, and then joined a second ball of black on the other side of the stripe so I wasn’t carrying my working yarn across the back of the piece (which would deform it and also not be very comfortable on my head).

The key is to twist the working strands together each time you change colors, like you’re doing Fair Isle colorwork. Which doesn’t even mean doing a lot of twisting—all you really have to do is bring your new working yarn up under the strand of the previous color when you’re switching over, so it traps the previous working strand against the back of the piece. So you get a sort of seam that looks like this:

And then on the front side of the piece, if you pull it apart a bit, that seam looks like this:

It can get a little warped right around where you cable, but that works itself out after another couple of rows, and if it really worries you, just make the stripe wider than just the cable.

I hope this helps you! ^_^

I didn’t expect suxh a long reply bit I’m very happy you did. Very helpful indeed. I’ll definitely try this again in the future. That is a beautiful headband. Thank you :)

lilbijou:

dirtybrian:

thewitchylibrarian:

dirtybrian:

mattachinereview:


biyuti:


girljanitor:


dumbthingswhitepplsay:


popca:


dolgematki:


nativevoice:


“Stop sending expired food”….”fried chicken 64.99” 
IQALUIT, Nunavut — A head of cabbage for $20. Fifteen bucks for a small bag of apples.
A case of ginger ale: $82.
Fed up and frustrated by sky-high food prices and concerned over widespread hunger in their communities, thousands of Inuit have spent weeks posting pictures and price tags from their local grocery stores to a Facebook site called Feed My Family.
Read more: http://www.ctv.ca/CTVNews/Canada/20120608/inuit-food-prices-protest-120608/#ixzz1xKWAJkGe


Holy hell.


WHAT IN THE FUCK? This shit is not okay.


ughhslfkajsdlf gross gross gross
64.99?????


These people are starving for a reason.
Conservationists
have been starving
these people
to death for years.


Reblogging for the extra articles. 
Also… I might show up to this protest and support them. 


Pay attention to this stuff, please, followers who haven’t heard about this!  This kind of thing is completely erased in news media.


This is really fucking important.
This is why I don’t respect anyone who blindly supports the anti-sealing protestors. Because for a lot of people, it’s the only affordable option.
It’s not just Iqaluit. In Nain, Labrador this problem has been going on for ages and nobody does anything about it. $47 for a ham and $17 for a block of cheese. In Rigolet, Labrador, a loaf of bread costs $7. Here’s another picture of an Iqaluit food price changing before your very eyes.
The NNCP is starving people, reducing their food choices, and keeping people on EI poor. This is so, so wrong.

How can we help? I joined the group and checked out the website, but I didn’t see anything that can be actively done (other than raising awareness, which, of course, is great).

Excellent question! If you read through the group (which is here, for anyone who missed it), there are people talking about some ways to help.
Look at the latest news on the Feeding My Family website to see what the priorities are and how you might be able to help.
If you’re Canadian, call your local MP and ask to discuss this issue and express your concern.
Look up ways to support putting pressure onto airlines to charge fair rates (a $1000 plane ticket should be from one coast to the other, not a few hundred miles).
Research and learn what you can about food sustainability. For a start, how about learning square foot/metre (French intensive) gardening or container gardening and starting to practice it yourself? Share these techniques with friends and family. Get good at it so you can teach them to others who have poor food security in your own area.
For the love of God, stop signing “anti-sealing”/”anti-hunting” petitions and supporting Greenpeace’s actions without understanding the complicated, nuanced situation in the North.
Watch the FB group, because people there mention direct donations and ways to help the organizations actually on the ground there.
For example, one person is starting up a donation project/fundraiser.
Look at what organizations like FoodShare are doing and support them.
There is so much to be done. Sharing news articles and stories, lists of resources, donation and fundraising pages, and knowledge about food security is critical, but there’s a lot more work of all sorts.

My cousin is in Nunavut currently and pays $11 for a “share” size of skittles and $27 for a 32oz cranberry juice
it’s fucking wild

lilbijou:

dirtybrian:

thewitchylibrarian:

dirtybrian:

mattachinereview:

biyuti:

girljanitor:

dumbthingswhitepplsay:

popca:

dolgematki:

nativevoice:

“Stop sending expired food”….”fried chicken 64.99” 

IQALUIT, Nunavut — A head of cabbage for $20. Fifteen bucks for a small bag of apples.

A case of ginger ale: $82.

Fed up and frustrated by sky-high food prices and concerned over widespread hunger in their communities, thousands of Inuit have spent weeks posting pictures and price tags from their local grocery stores to a Facebook site called Feed My Family.

Holy hell.

WHAT IN THE FUCK? This shit is not okay.

ughhslfkajsdlf gross gross gross

64.99?????


These people are starving for a reason.

Conservationists

have been starving

these people

to death for years.

Reblogging for the extra articles. 

Also… I might show up to this protest and support them. 

Pay attention to this stuff, please, followers who haven’t heard about this!  This kind of thing is completely erased in news media.

This is really fucking important.

This is why I don’t respect anyone who blindly supports the anti-sealing protestors. Because for a lot of people, it’s the only affordable option.

It’s not just Iqaluit. In Nain, Labrador this problem has been going on for ages and nobody does anything about it. $47 for a ham and $17 for a block of cheese. In Rigolet, Labrador, a loaf of bread costs $7. Here’s another picture of an Iqaluit food price changing before your very eyes.

The NNCP is starving people, reducing their food choices, and keeping people on EI poor. This is so, so wrong.

How can we help? I joined the group and checked out the website, but I didn’t see anything that can be actively done (other than raising awareness, which, of course, is great).

Excellent question! If you read through the group (which is here, for anyone who missed it), there are people talking about some ways to help.

  • Look at the latest news on the Feeding My Family website to see what the priorities are and how you might be able to help.
  • If you’re Canadian, call your local MP and ask to discuss this issue and express your concern.
  • Look up ways to support putting pressure onto airlines to charge fair rates (a $1000 plane ticket should be from one coast to the other, not a few hundred miles).
  • Research and learn what you can about food sustainability. For a start, how about learning square foot/metre (French intensive) gardening or container gardening and starting to practice it yourself? Share these techniques with friends and family. Get good at it so you can teach them to others who have poor food security in your own area.
  • For the love of God, stop signing “anti-sealing”/”anti-hunting” petitions and supporting Greenpeace’s actions without understanding the complicated, nuanced situation in the North.
  • Watch the FB group, because people there mention direct donations and ways to help the organizations actually on the ground there.
  • For example, one person is starting up a donation project/fundraiser.
  • Look at what organizations like FoodShare are doing and support them.

There is so much to be done. Sharing news articles and stories, lists of resources, donation and fundraising pages, and knowledge about food security is critical, but there’s a lot more work of all sorts.

My cousin is in Nunavut currently and pays $11 for a “share” size of skittles and $27 for a 32oz cranberry juice

it’s fucking wild

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daniellemertina:

i think it’s weird when people think they’re “cool” for things that actually just make them ignorant. like not wanting to be politically correct, finding enjoyment in offending people, always approaching issues theoretically and never with empathy, generally being a bad person/ leaning towards sociopathy. just odd. 

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princess-neville:

girls being kept out of the sciences and pushed into the humanities; the humanities being valued less in our society than the sciences; and the humanities and sciences being looked at as stark opposites that couldn’t possibly be enjoyed for the same reasons are all problems that need to in some degree be tackled together 

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